What actually is (sexual) consent? Why is it important to talk about physical intimacy? What social images are we given of sex and consent? And how exactly do I actually talk about it? These and other questions will be addressed in November.
Yes, consent sounds really good and is described beautifully in texts. But because we know how unfamiliar and strange it can feel to actually put it into practice, we want to share a few examples today. Get inspired, think about what you would answer, rephrase what doesn't suit you or share the text with your friends or partners!
Consent – and by that I don't just mean the agreement question, but the whole communication about communicating needs and boundaries - makes my relationships with other people more loving and deeper. In the process, we also talk about our gender roles, heteronormativity, and sexual violence. Sometimes I then have the illusion that I can overcome all these structural problems ...
Consent may start with simple questions, which are sometimes so difficult for us, but it means much more to me. Asking about my wishes and what I want first showed me that my needs are important; first for the other person, but ultimately of course for me. ...
The other day I wanted to get intimate with another person again after a long time and started to think more about the topic of consent in this context. By intimacy here I mean hugging, holding hands, cuddling, kissing, sexual acts and sex. To me, the concept of "yes means yes" promised a certain security that no boundaries would be violated. That sounds simple at first ...
Have you ever made love, kissed or touched someone? What was it like the last time you were intimate with someone, or how would you imagine it? What person are you thinking about? What did you do? Did you really feel like doing it? Did the other person feel like it? Would you have liked to be asked, or would you rather not? Did you talk about what you were going to do in advance? Did you ask before you did something with the other person? Why, why not? We will be looking at consent in sexual contexts in November ...