Why do cis men feel comfortable or uncomfortable with other men? What does this have to do with competition and sexism? With whom do cis men talk about their feelings and why is this related to patriarchy? Our texts in June on the topic of male friendships revolve around these and other questions.
Ab Juni geht’s los, seid gespannt!
I think I can talk about feelings quite well. I'm empathetic, I'm good at cuddling, hugging, being there for people when I have the mental resources, and I'm good at opening up. At least that's what some of my female friends tell me. So I am one of those 'modern' and sensitive men. One who has shed traditional masculinity requirements¹? One of the good ones? ...
When I was 14 years old, groups of boys were formed in my circle. At first, we were united by our common activities: School or club sports, but soon we were also drinking alcohol, going out at night, gaming, smoking joints or shisha. The time began when everything became a competition: ...
My best friend at school was a really nice person. He listened to me, we could talk about our feelings and he showed understanding when I told him how I suffered from the toxic behaviour of other men. Okay, he was a bit awkward, but at least he tried. But ...
What do you think of when you think of male friendships? Which friend, which group, which feeling and which memories? I think of many things: evenings with "the guys", fun evenings, sports & leisure, hobbies, competing and drinking beer. Something "uncomplicated" that I can still rely on. Actually something nice. It took me a long time ...